Overcoming Masturbation Paranoia

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There are two general categories of individuals who have Masturbation Paranoia:

• Those who have a fear or phobia of getting caught while masturbating or a fear of someone being able to tell they masturbate.

• People who have an overwhelming sense of guilt from masturbating, often inspired by religious or moral interpretations.

From age 12 into my early teens, I was extremely paranoid about my parents, doctors, and friends finding out that I masturbated. I thought my parents would walk into my room and catch me so I locked the door. Then I thought that if they tried to open the door and it was locked, they would think I was up to something worse. I would have scary dreams that my parents walked in on me. Some were so vivid that I was convinced it really happened the next day. My parents had always been open about sex and sexuality so I didn't think they would punish me. However, they didn't really say much about masturbation so I feared the unknown reaction I would get and the embarrassment I would have from getting caught in the act. I wasn't sure if I would be sent to a sex therapist or have to go to some other kind of rehabilitation.

Strangely enough, I believed that doctors could tell I was a masturbator from examining me. Once, I heard on the news that doctors were testifying in a court case to help prove that a young girl was raped. The doctors examined her vagina to see if there was injury, or semen, etc. The report said that they could tell from a small piece of skin called the hymen (also referred to as the "cherry") that the girl had been penetrated. After I heard this, I figured that doctors could definitely tell if  I ejaculated before by examining my penis. I noticed it was getting longer and thicker during the past few months and I thought it may be because of my daily masturbation. I also noticed I had more pubic hair than a few of my friends so I assumed it was because I did it more often than them. When I was 12-13, I thought I was too young to be masturbating and that the doctors would embarrass me or tell my parents. Looking back, I can see that all of it was just the rapid changes that occur during puberty. It all had nothing to do with my frequency of masturbation.

I feared my friends would be able to tell also. I thought I might act different or walk different the next day after masturbation. I remember my peers accusing me of doing it and I didn't say anything to defend myself  because I knew it was true. I tried to quit altogether a few times. This only ever lasted a couple of days or a week at most. Soon, I realized that they tease other guys about it just as much. Now I can see that my peers only made those kind of comments to get a reaction out of me. They didn't seem too serious about it so the negative feelings from their comments passed quickly. They probably just wanted to see if  I was as guilty of masturbation as they were. When I was about 14, I remember one of my friends asking me if  I did it . I did not deny it or confirm it. I was silent for a minute then I said "no comment" with a smirk. I was still a bit insecure about the whole topic and there were other issues involved. He was a little younger and our parents knew each other so I didn't want them to find out I told him. I thought he was too young to understand it but he understood what the real story was. He kind of laughed and said, "yeah... I know." Little did he know, he helped me more than anyone to accept the fact that masturbation was something I liked and something I would be doing for a long time into the future.

I have heard a few guys talk about being paranoid about masturbation because they claim it says not to do it in the Bible. I'm very grateful that my church never forced this theory on me. The idea that it is a sin was never really an issue for me because there is no mention of the word 'masturbation' anywhere in the Bible. The anti-masturbation versus that people quote from the Bible are quite a stretch. I'm sure that if God did not want people to masturbate, the Bible would say it in more descriptive terms. There would be specific examples of unmarried guys being punished for it. If it were such a sin then it would have been the 11th commandment. Let's face it. The semen is going to be released one way or another. If we are not having sex, it's going to come out through masturbation while we are awake or through nocturnal emissions while we are asleep. Neither is a sin, according to the Bible, in my opinion. See more on Masturbation and Religion.

The more educated I became on the topic, the better I felt about it. I went to my local library and researched masturbation. (There wasn't much of an internet back in the late 80s and early 90s so the library was my only source of knowledge.) I found out that almost all males who have been though puberty have masturbated at some point in their life and a lot of guys do it regularly. I was surprised to find out that even most married men admit they masturbate from time to time. I came to accept the fact that probably everyone simply assumed I masturbated, even my parents! By about age 16-17, this became my attitude and I began to enjoy the whole masturbation experience a lot more. I got more relaxed with the idea that it was just part of having an adult male body.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Early Masturbation, Mike

I remember the first time I masturbated, around age 10. I was in the living room watching t.v Then I just began touching my self. I did not know how to stroke it, I would just sqeeze it and touch my rectum. Then a day later I walked in on my older brother on the bed masturabting. He looked at me and told me to come here. I walked to him and he should me hoe to masturbate. That same afternoon I was home alone and was on the couch masurbating. Our mail deliver that we had was a sexy brunete lady. I had the door closed but the blinds were open, I stood up and was maturbating thinking about that vagina. Then she saw me, she was just looking at what I was doing and smiled then went on her job. That was the first time I really felt th e pleasure of masturbating, now I do it every other day. I love it.

SEXUALITY: In-Between
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Kevin

I have been masturbating ever since I was 12, I have been doing it ever since in private, but I always fear my parents coming into my room and catching me in da act. So when my parents are in the kitchen, I do it with covers off, but I they are next door, I do it with covers on, and I hate it when they come in, and I have to stop until they go out, I told my friends that I masturbate, and me and my friend do dares, mostly with masturbating as in masturbating in a hole in the wall, but this summer I will ejaculate into a cup to show that dare fulfilled I used to think that if I masturbate to much, I would run out of sperm and become infertile, sterile, unable to have children, the doctors probably know that I have ejaculated before, because I urinated in a cup for a physical, and by masturbating the night before, they probably found a trace of loose semen, sooner or later they will find out

SEXUALITY: Solosexual
GENDER: Female
TITLE: Masturbation Paranoia by "Joey"

I have been a Christian for three years now. However, I do not believe that masturbation is wrong or in any way harmful. In fact, for us single women who are still virgins (myself included), I believe that masturbation is a wonderful way to get to know our bodies' sexual likes and dislikes in preparation for marriage! Otherwise, how are we supposed to enjoy sex with our future husbands, and how are we supposed to teach them how to please us? Also, since I believe that having sexual fantasies is a form of lust, and lust is wrong, when you are feeling sexually aroused (this is going to happen whether we are thinking about sex or not), masturbation can be used to stop or prevent any unwanted sexual fantasies (in my case, homosexual fantasies) from occurring, relieve you of your sexual tension through intense orgasms, and make you better able to focus on God and other aspects of your life. Otherwise, the tension will only get worse, and you will become distracted, unable to focus or concentrate on anything else, and you will find yourself committing other types of sexual acts you vowed you would never commit simply to relieve your (now unwanted) sexual tension. In other words, your fantasies will only linger and get worse, and you will find yourself eventually acting on them. So, while it is better to try to avoid anything that could get you sexually aroused and wanting to masturbate while you are single, don't listen to any of those antimasturbation Christians who are only out to cause you guilt and shame just because you do it. Instead, make masturbation your own personal choice, not theirs. If it's okay for some people to be against it, why shouldn't it be okay for the rest of us to be equally for it? As far as I am concerned, since God never mentioned it in the Bible, masturbation is a mere non-issue, a debate I wish would hurry up and go away. God bless, and Happy Masturbation, people!

SEXUALITY: Undecided
GENDER: Male
TITLE: My masturbating by "rick"

I am fourteen and I masturbate nearly everyday. I always have a fear of my parents walking in on me when I do it. (After all, I stole a porn tape from my dad) I still masturbate, but only when one or two people are home. My sister knows I masturbate and she doesn't care, so I can trust her in case something happens. I also just think that masturbating is only self pleasure and nothing bad except getting caught and the punishment that can come from it...

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Caught Jerking by "Mike"

I am married and I jerk off 4-5 times a week. My wife has never caught me but I am so afraid that she will catch me during one of my regular jerk off sesions. I have jerked off in our bed after she gets up. Sometimes, I pull the covers down and jerk in earnest. She almost caught me one time. I am so worried that she will find out that I jerk off. I am petrified that she might find out one day.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Female
TITLE: Sheila

I went through the whole paranoia thing when I was a tad younger. I was nearly 18 when I started masturbating. It felt good, but I felt so guilty about it. I actually bought into all of the "It's a sin" hogwash for a while, especially since I'd just joined the church a few months before my first session. After reading several masturbation websites and discovering what a myth that was, I said the f*ck with it, and haven't stopped frigging myself since. By the way, I am no longer a member of the church, nor am I religious anymore. I am a 22-year-old masturbator, and darned happy to be one. And you?

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Female
TITLE: Mickey

I don't feel masturbation is at all wrong, I am baptist and am in full agreement, stop the urge before you lust. I get horny by just having my shirt pass over my breast. I masturbate about 4 times a week, I am married with 2 children and I love it, I love the feel, I do it in my front room with the blinds open, I am proud of my body and what God gave me. If some one else sees, then they need to control their lust. I do not hesitate to tell people I get off from masturbation. If it makes you feel good, then do it. Good luck having fun.

SEXUALITY: Undecided
GENDER: Female
TITLE: Shannon

Well I'm quite young but I won't say my age and I always think someone will walk in on me. I lock my door and all but I'm still scared. I've been caught doing some things but not like real masturbation.

SEXUALITY: Undecided
GENDER: Male
TITLE: Von (jack off 3-5 times a week)

I'm in 10th grade. I been stroakin since I was 11 and even then I made myself go into puberty cuz I started to jack off so early. Only 1 time have I been able to quit and it was for a 2 month period. Ever since then I cant stop. I dont think its sick or ne thang like that. I do fear my mom will catch me but since both my brother moved out and its juss me and my mom its much easier. And she works durin the day. so when I get home at like 2 40 I have until like 8 to do any thang I want to. The most I did it was 9 times a week and im not 1 of them crazy addicts who do it like 4 times a day. When eva I do it tho (even tho im not bi, im just curious goin bak str8) I watch gay mens porn. I do like girls but guy porn turn me on. ne way so yea I like to jack off and im sure lots of otha ppl do to. and yes I use lube. baby oil every time and some times I combine it with lotion to get the peak.

SEXUALITY: Straight
GENDER: Male
TITLE: rumpleforeskin

I was jackin in my cousins bathroom at a party and he was looking through a crack in the door and, after i regained my composure, he asked me what i was doing. I told him " I was peeing" yeah right! he said he never saw any body pump it out before! I was so convicted.

SEXUALITY: In-Between
GENDER: Male
TITLE: frank

hey guys, i am so scared to be seen masturbating at home or with people who really know me but when you dont know me i don't care. the first time was at 16 at school in the boys bathroom, i pressed myself on the wall and then i saw the sperm came, the days later i did everything to find how that sperm came out cause the feeling was unbelieveble. Ever since i have been caught doing it in boys locker rroms, bathrooms, community centers, libraries, classrooms, parks, swimmimg pools, and basements of apartments complex. I tell you when someone sees me or i am freaking out cause they might see me i get more and more excited. Since i dont know those people who see me it does bother me. The people who know me friends, family members, etc can not even imagine i masturbate, in public i am so against it and pure... but i am telling that feeling is killing me sometimes. One day, in front of an office, i bet $350 that i could masturbate there, the bet was with five other guys, they stood there,i took all my clothes off, i was 18, now i am 19, and i started killing myself and as a result two of them were so excited that they ran to the bathroom, i got my money but at the end while the sperm was coming out four people walked, starred at me, 2 females, two males, laughed, were in shock and then called the security. By the time the security came we were gone. I was so happy, but scare they will call the police. Nothing ever happened.

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i was alone in my bedroom one night and my uncle wasn't home yet. So i decided to masturbate and stroke my penis... i stripped off my shorts and briefs and I started in doing so. As the night gets deeper, I feel sleepy but i continue stroking mt penis as pleasures get more intense.. out of my mind, i fell asleep having been unjerked yet and the worse thing is that, I left the dorr unlocked.. at about 3am. I heard threre's someone walking in my room,, I suddenly woke up and I found my uncle therre, I noticed that Im still holding my flaccid penis. My uncle caught me, I was too shy that time. even if he isnt talking, by his smile, I know that he thinks that I tried to masturbate while he was away.. From that night on, I have fear of masturbating...

I remember it well, the first time I Wanked my dick, as they say in the UK. I was 12, and my best friend Jay had been telling me bout jacking, he asked me if I had ever done it, I said I had tried several times but nothing happened,Jay was about a year older then me, and he said he would show me how to do it. It was after school bout mid afternoon, and he mom was not home. so we went to his house, he said I had to get naked, and he did also. he had hard on as he took his shorts down, and I got one also prity fast, He grabed his cock and told me to follow him, he was cut and i was un cut, he was bigger tham me all arround, longer and thicker dick, more pubic hair, a little taller, and larger balls, and more pubic hair. as he stroked his cock and I tried to keep up, he said he was about to shoot. and asked me how I was feeling, I sid I don't feel a thing. and I did not feel much but I was hard, any way to make a long story shorter, he suddenly stood up, ( We had been sitting on the edge of his bed) and he started to moan and I noticed his cock was very hard, and something was oozen out, I did not know about pre cum at the time, he spread his legs and slowed down a bit and squeezed his cock so more pe cum oozed out, and he licked it off his fingers, he asked me how I was doing, and still I had no felling, and it was just like nothing special, as I had done many time by my self,

All of a sudden he let out a cry that he was cumming,and to my surprise he shoot out 6 or 8 giant sperts, he shoot them into his hand because he said he did not want to spill any on the floor.

I stopped what I was doing, ( Jacking) and watched him enjoy him self. I was rock hard and started to get a tingle in my balll sack, but nothing else. after he finished he wiped himself off with a towel he had, and I should be cumming by now, and he said He would help me, so he took my didk in his hand, and started jacking me, man now that felt fantastic, and I let him jack me for about 2 or 3 min when I felt this funny sensation, like I had to piss real bad, but it just did not feel like piss. my balls tightened up and held them in one hand and kept going, and all of a sudden I felt this wounderfull, strang feeling all over my body, I asked him to stop that I did not know what was happening, he told me I ws cuming and not to worry just relax and enjoy it, I remembered him a few min earlier, and how much he enjoy it when he started to shoot, so I let him continue, and he told me I had to jack into his towell, because He did noot want me to shoot myload on the floor, I felt I was beyond control and just let it happen, and man it was so pleasureable, he said he would keep jacking until I stoppped shooting, I shot about 6 or 7 times once I finished shooting it was uncomfortable for me to let his continue jacking. so he stopped my didk remained hard for seeral min before it deflated....

that was my first experience jacking

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Hi, me and my girlfriend used to mutally masturbate, we have been doing so for around 2.5 years, but recently she has been getting paranoid and has managed to re-draw the line in our relationship, we are both pretty serious tho. to relieve myself of the sexual tension build up, i have been masturbating, i have tried to talk to her about her individual mastubation too as she is getting quite tied up and tense. She says that she doest get the same pleasure as when i masturbate her. she is going through a phase where she does not want to even realize her sexual needs. Im trying to convince her to masturbate with me, looking at me and me looking at her...but she seems shy or dislikes it....how can i help her?? any suggestions..

PS. we do not have access to sex toys..

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I was always worried about getting caught by my dad, but when he caught me at 13 he was real cool about it. He told me to go for it, that all guys do it including him. I lived with my dad (parents divorced) so it was really no big deal when my dad caught me. I used to catch him like every day rubbing one off.

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The kids were at school and the wife was away for the day, I was feeling horny so I went to the bedroom, stripped and lay on the bed, I closed my eyes and began to fantasise about the teenage poppet next door. I slowly stroked my penis and managed to last about fifteen minites befor I reached orgasm, as I started to come I opened my eyes and there standing in the open door was my thirteen year old daughter. I have never been so embarrassed in my life, I spurted at least four times, come shot up my chest and belly ran down my cock into my pubic hair. shut the door I yelled. She grinned reached into her pocket and handed me a wad of tissues I think you need these she said and walked out. Needless to say I now make sure the door is closed when I masturbate

The only time I get Paranoia is when I do long sessions in my room, I keep thinking the kids are trying to get a peek so I hang blanets on the walls and this works for me. I dont care if my wife cathes me

Its natural to be a little scared of someone catching you while masturbating but it doesnt mean its wrong....its like someone catching you taking a shower..its not wrong but it feels ackward...i dont know why you people make such a big deal out of it..

I masturbate frequently and I think it has interfered with my social life a little bit. I would like to stop but I just keep having the urges and I cant get them to go away. After reading all the commentaries above I realize that it is not a sin and if it is pleasurable so be it. But I really want to stop anyways if somebody can post something hear to help me stop I would really appreciate it. Thanks in advance

My husband and I were very young when we were married (15 and 16). I somehow just assumed he masturbated and thought nothing of it. I actually thought it was hot to think about. I asked him once to stop using my expensive shampoos and lotions to to play with himself and use the other kind. He looked horrified and denied the fact. I just hugged and kissed him and said well okay, smiled and wispered ...the cheep stuff okay honey? I then went about whatever I was doing and didn't bring up the subject again. I made sure to keep my favotite products put up, leaving the others out for him, and making sure he had plenty of privet bathroom time without interuption. We had plenty of sex, more than once every day, but he was very young with a huge sex drive. About a year or so later I walked in on him in the bathroom on accident. He was sitting on the edge of the tub stroking away nearly cummung I believe. He Yelled at me, very upset. I quickly closed the door and appoligized. Later I told him i wished he didn't feel bad. I didn't care at all. But, It might be best if he gave me a clue so I would not come in on him again since it bothered him so much. I respected his privacy. Even though I thought it was the sexiest thing ever and was dying to watch. Through the years I have come to know of many if not all of his masturbation stories. His mother was very harsh about the matter and caused a lot of guilt in him when he was young. It took some time but, he finally became able to pleasure himself guilt and worry free any time he wanted. I have yet been able to convence him to let me watch. But he will occasionally stroke it some while I am giving him oral pleasure. (I LOVE THAT!!!) We have been married 20 years now. We can talk about anything. There is no guilt or embassassment anymore. It is after all very natural and very healthy part of life.

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