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People continue to lump sexual, romantic, and even platonic feelings together under "sexual" orientation, when the reality is that each of the three is an independent variable. Most males, in particular, have no problem separating sex from romance. For example, when a straight male says, "I'm not gay. I just like male oral sex," what he means is that he is heteroromantic (straight in the romantic sense). In short, romantic orientation is what people usually mean by "sexual" orientation.
I believe that about 70% of the male population is biSEXUAL, heteroromantic, and homoplatonic (sharing homosocial bonds with guys, as straight males love to do). It is this innate biSEXuality in them that causes straight-identified males to fear anything gay. Furthermore, about 13.5% of the population is either exclusively or overwhelmingly homoromantic (gay in the romantic sense).
A realistic theoretical breakdown of the percentages may look like this:
Romantic Orientation |
Sexual Orientation |
Platonic Orientation |
| 71%
Heteroromantic
15% Biromantic 13.5% Homoromantic .5% Other |
79.5%
Bisexual
10% Heterosexual 10% Homosexual .5% Other |
71%
Homoplatonic
15% Biplatonic 13.5% Heteroplatonic .5% Other |
The remainder may be biromantic AND bisexual.
I believe that most males bring their romantic feelings for females when they interact sexually with them and bring their platonic feelings for males when they have sex with males. The sex transforms these feelings (whether romantic or platonic) into stronger bonds between males and their sexual partners (whether males or females). This, in turn, has evolutionary benefits. Studies clearly are needed on this, but they won't be made until researchers start dissecting sexual, romantic, and platonic orientation as three independent variables.
Reading through the many advice columns on the Internet, I am disappointed that the so-called "experts" continue to talk about "heterosexuals," "bisexuals," and "homosexuals" when referring to the romantic feelings of these populations, and then dismiss the sexual feelings of their male readers as meaningless (or as "not meaning you're gay or bi") simply because it is sex, not romance, that the readers confess to being curious about.
A typical reader comment would go something like, "I'm a straight guy not interested in other guys. But I like sucking a man's penis. Am I gay?" The "expert" would then say something like, "Just because you enjoy gay sexual activity doesn't mean you're gay, or even bi. It is your emotional feelings that determine your sexual orientation. If you only like girls, then you're probably heterosexual."
The problem with this exchange (so typical on the Internet and even scholarly journals) is that the terms remain vague. Things such as "like girls" would presumably mean in a romantic sense. But this is not made clear, and the purely sexual feelings/activities are dismissed as "not the real thing." Unfortunately, this approach belittles sex and raises romance as the REAL determinant of "sexual" orientation. For males, however, sex ALONE is just as important as romance, and terms are simply lacking to allow them to make sense (to tear apart, if you will) these different elements of their lives, much less to name and even identify along different tiers of "orientation"-in this case sexual vs. romantic. vs. platonic orientation.
The label bisexual is rejected by straight-identified people-and males, in particular-because they think that it means rejecting the opposite sex romantically. But one can be straight in the romantic sense AND bisexual in the purely sexual sense (at least males can, who easily divorce sex from romance). In other words, people can identify in more than one way if presented with new analytical concepts and mutitiered orientation scales, such as the three-circle graph that reconceptualizes the Kinsey scale, found at www.threecirclegraph.com
America was way ahead in the 19th century, when males had the freedom (and were even encouraged) to form really intense friendships with other males. These friendships were called romantic-friendships because they involved males holding hands, kissing on the lips, cuddling together, and talking about intimate matters. (Females practiced these romantic-friendships as well, with other females.) Then, "homosexuality" was discovered in the late-19th century-just as industrial capitalism really took off. Suddenly, males were rebuked as "homosexuals" for being physically tender with other males and were encouraged to be competitive and to distrust one another (this being needed in the more fiercely capitalistic world that was emerging). The ridiculousness of this is that today, most males are thought to be biologically programmed to be macho, to distrust one another, and to be "straight." But looking at the social order of 19th century America (and Europe), one sees that romantic-friendships were quite natural. Sure, they lacked the sexual element, but everything else (from holding hands to sleeping together) was there.
I believe that America (and western Europe) can move back to this model, but this will require a radical shift in group consciousness. For starters, it will mean questioning the dominant paradigm of "sexual" orientation, of people being either "straight" or "gay," of sex and romance/friendship being the same thing (instead of independent variables that often come together), of males being biologically programmed to distrust one another and be "straight" (instead of socially conditioned for that), and so on.
The conservatives are right! Labels do matter, and how one identifies early in life (as far as "sexual" orientation) influences how one sees oneself in adulthood (as straight, gay, bi, etc.). This self-image, in turn, influences what one allows oneself to fantasize about, what one allows oneself to do (and not do), one's choice of friends, etc. Let's hope that researchers, activists, and others start providing people with more options (through research and activism) as far as "sexual" orientation and how people are allowed and even encouraged to identify.
Personally, I am a believer that platonic relationships can actually affect sexual and romantic preferences -- maybe even determine them. I would like to get some numbers on it to see how strong the possible correlation is. A more open-mind to the romantic relationships you described in 19th century men could possibly lead to stronger heterosexual identities in actual sex practices. If behaviors like that were more acceptable, I think it would remove much of the mystique and fear that surrounds many "straight" men's obsessive homosexual curiosities. With less mystique and fear, I think there would generally be less "straight" men worried about being compelled to engage in sexual actions with other men (or at least less over-reacting feelings about other men). -----
(2) As far as the "sexpert" advice columns are concerned, when someone is afraid they might be "gay", they are usually fearing the stereotypical symptoms of "gayness", which do exist in many gay men but not by any means in all gay men. The sexpert is usually trying to ease the mind of the questioner because it is not true that just because a guy thinks he might like to fellate another guy's penis that he actually would like doing it. Even if he did like doing it after trying it, does not necessarily mean that he will be suddenly behaving like a stereotypical gay male. Therefore, the more correct answer is: The questioner probably is not (and will not become) what his own conception of "gay" is. Nevertheless, "Sexperts" are often dealing with the "Average Joe" or the "Homer Simpson" that call or write in and ask, "I saw a guy's boner in the shower and it turned me on, does this mean I am gay." The Sex-expert is dealing with the average 8th grade educated "dude" who is scared he is going to somehow turn out like Elton John, Liberache, or other stereotypical gays. Therefore, the sex-expert cuts to the chase to ease the man's mind. They will say, "It doesn't mean you're gay because an erection turned you on." In reality, they are saying, "Just because a boner turned you on does not mean you will be lisping your voice, dressing like a flamboyant psycho, and getting humped in the butt by every slutty man in the world.-----
(3) Also, I think there is a general misconception of the word bisexual. A lot of people assume a bisexual would be sleeping with both sexes all the time. However, if we look at the broad definition of bisexuals as stated above, there are lots of married males who probably have bisexual feelings that are within the range of the majority.
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I identify as Bi, but Jim actually gay, by choice , I have had sex with plenty of females, but I prefer hard bodies hard cocks and all that works up to a climax with other dudes, I prefer encounters with guy's that say that they are str8, but are easily open to masturbation to a porn with chicks in them , guys who will openly masturbate with a buddy to a porn, when they are sitting there with there pant around there ankles, usually will go for me reaching over and grabbing there cock and jacking them off, and after they go for that, they usually have no resistance, if me going down on them and sucking there cocks to orgasm have blown probably 99% of my str8 buddies, and about 99% of them have sucked me back or at the same time 69 , some with a little reassurance that I'd never let it be known to ANYONE! Funny, After they trust that I wont ever divulge that they let me suck them off, it becomes a regular thing , they come over I offer them a drink , and we don't even turn on porn's they just give me the look ,or squeeze the cock and motion me to get down and suck um off! or they just say do you wont to give me some head again , and I do. TA Jim convened that under the right circumstances ALL horny men will let a dude suck them off as long as they feel that there activity Will Stay a secret.
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Today, I admit to myself that I have a level of sexual attraction to my closest friend of almost 20 years, but that I still love my wife as well. In my fantasies, which I fulfill while masturbating, I imagine giving my friend oral sex and rubbing his penis. I imagine he does the same for me. We have a degree of intimacy, non sexual, that I don't have with anyone else which I believe explains my feelings toward him. We have talked openly about our sexuality. However, he is definitely straight and does not want to engage in the sort of activity that I would be interested in. I appreciate his honesty, and would never want him to feel uncomfortable, so I am unlikely to ever engage in that level of activity. He is the only guy I would ever want to be involved sexually with. Still, we talk about our sexual experiences with each other and that is satisfactory. Some may say that I'm not truly bisexual, but by my own definition in thinking about my friend this way, I believe I am.
I suppose I would be classified as heterosexual, as I have had sex with no other person than my wife since I married. When I was a teenager, I had a few homosexual experiences (oral, anal, and mutual masturbation). I enjoyed them, so I guess that makes me homosexual or gay. I love to masturbate and do it every day, sometimes ejaculating several times a day, and I spend a lot of time masturbating even when I don't ejaculate. So I suppose that makes me a solosexual. I have often fantasized about my wife having sex with another man, or engaging in sex with another couple in a bi-sexual orgy. So I guess that would make me a voyeur and bi-sexual. I think it is difficult to put a label on someone to say they are exclusively this or that, it might just be circumstances for some people -- they get into a certain category and are happy with it, but it could easily have been different. Also it may depend on how strong a person's sexual drive is. It seems some people have a really low sex drive and are satisfied with a small amount of sex, they could easily just fit into one category. Others who need a lot of sex might be more likely to experiment with different things.
The first time I was really ever unsure about my sexuality was four nights ago in my local bar. There was this couple there from out of town and they got chatting to me. I'd say the wife was about 45yrs old and the husband was about 50. As the night wore on and the alcohol flowed the three of us chatted away. The guy was very genuine and I started to felt a closeness to him. His wife was reasonably attractive and after a while her husband left to go to the toilet. She was very affectionate towards me and leaned over and said she had to ask me something. All of a sudden my cock went rock hard. I thought she was going to propose a threesome, but it wasn't that.
Later that night in bed I could not shake off my stiffie. All I could imagine was the three of us having sex. In my fantasy I was sharing her with him in a front and back position. Then I found myself fantasising about jacking him off, giving him oral and anal. Also him doing the same to me. I found this turned me on more than the fantasy of bedding his wife. This is the first time Later the next day I really felt undecided about my sexual identity.
I've had sexual fantasises before about cock, like after being in the gym showers and some guy gets a boner or watching porn etc, and I've masturbated about the fantasy. But that's all it was, fantasy. Now I feel I have a deep sexual attraction. Does this make me gay, bisexual or what? I don't have any tendancy towards romantic feelings towards this guy but if he and his wife invited me into their bed I would of definately would have been, and still am, a willing particpant in homosexual acts.
I also noticed something I do subconciously. I don't usually feel like going out to find a guy to have sex with but I do like being in the male changing rooms checking out guys and I usually get a boner in the shower. I like it when my local GP was giving me a testicle and penile exam for my yearly check-up.
Ionly ever be romantically involved and only ever have sex with women but I do have some close gay friends. I didn't discuss this encounter with them or even about being gay. None of them or their boyfriends have ever hit on me because they say I'm too straight. Now I have to re-evaluate who I am, but if as is said above I'm Heteroromantic I don't think I could have homosexual experiences and still be involved on an emotional level with the opposite sex.
I had read years ago about Kinsey's conclusion that no one is either totally hetrosexual or homosexual, but somewhere in-between. I didn't give it much thought but figured I leaned way to the hetrosexual side. I knew when a guy was handsome but was never physically atrracted to them whereas a good looking woman would definately turn my head.
My step-daughter is gay and we've had some good conversation about homosexuality and has caused me to think more deeply about the whole subject. Kinsey's idea seems more revelant now and I guess to one degree or another, we can be bisexual, if not relationship wise, sexual wise. If anything, it has caused a certain curiosity to what a same sex experience would be like under a controled condition. It seems weird to admit this but in a way the curiosity is an intellectual one as well as the physical aspect.
i am a little confused about the gender i will go with in the future i am a 14 year old male in the mid stages of puberty. i have a deep desire to engage sexualy with another teen male my age and yes i have a girlfriend and we do ''Stuff''. yet i am leaning more towards the gay side (homosexual)but i dont want to. i know that most boys at this age is curious about the same sex relation but it sorta scares me and i feel guilty about even thinking of it. its just when i see another man without a shirt or just a hott guy in general, i get hard and fantasize about having sex with him. is there any tips you might be able to give me? on how to not be gay, i would even be happy being bi, but for some reason i lean more to the homosexual side. Thanks
I am a happiley married man but I enjoy a close relationship with my brother inlaw. While we are both straight we have found that we are physicly attracted to each other.We now have an occasional sexual encounter and have found that it has added a new dimension to our friendship. I never thought that I would enjoy sucking a mans Penis or anal sex. Sex has certainly deepened our friend ship.
I am 27 and I guess would be concidered a bisexual. I have always had girlfriends and am currently in a longterm relationship with one of 4 years. I get together with a male friend of mine about 4 times a months on top of the times my girlfriend, myself and my friend have mfm 3somes, but with no male/male contact. While I do enjoy sucking cock and getting mine sucked and at times anal, top and bottom, I would never have a relationship with another male. Even though my girlfriend has made it clear that bisexual males do not turn her on, I'm on the verge of telling her about my friend and myself in hopes that maybe us two males can fool around during the 3somes. I have been having sex with males since I was 17 and don't plan to stop, but also plan on having relationships with only females
I don't like to think of myself as bi or gay..Maybe just oversexed. I've been seeing this guy once every two weeks for oral sex. He is married, I am not..I do love to give oral to a guy..females too...Why do I have to be catogorized? Haven't had a female for company in a long time.
I guess I am Bisexual, I have only had anal sex with one guy 30 years ago, I am married but have been involved with males for mutual masturbation and oral sex several times, I get turned on by looking at cocks and male ejeculation, I have a fantasy that I would love to have double vaginal penetration with my wife, the idea of two guys coming together inside her just about blows my mind.
I must admit that these days I dont go looking for casual male masturbation and oral, I know if I went into a toilet or shower block and someone was masturbating that I would be tempted to join in, I have been that way since I was 16 and a 33 year old workmate gave me oral to orgasm every day, I have tried to fight my feelings but have just about given up, I am convinced that is my nature and think its imposible to change, by the way I am 60 and enjoy masturbating about 4 times a week.
I am married, but lately I have found to be more interested in men. It is not intentioanl, but men seem to be more interested in me than women. Recently on a business trip I was in a steam room and got an erection. I took my towel off and exposed my erection. To my surprised the guy sitting across from me took his towel off to expose his erection. He came over and sat next to me and started to rub my cock. In return I started to jerk him off. We played with each other for awhile and I was starting to get close to cuming. I said I had to go, as I was concerned about the other guys watching us. He didnt want me to go and started to suck me.This felt really good, but I got more scared and stood up. He was still sucking me, but I pulled away, When I left I felt bad. I wish we could have sucked each other to orgasm.
I am 62 and married. I enjoy having sex with both males and females. However, I prefer to be romantic with females and not males, I just enjoy the sex part with males. I guess you could say I'm Heteroromantic when it comes to romance and Bisexual when it comes to enjoying sex with both sexes and Biplatonic when it comes to love with both sexes. I enjoy kissing and being romantic with females but not males, however, when it come to sex I enjoy being sexual with both sexes. I have had oral with both and enjoy licking a female to orgasm or sucking a male to orgasm. I also enjoy having intercourse with both,ie, being in the woman and having the male in me, I also enjoy masturbating with both. I enjoy watching a female get off or even helping her get off and the same with a male, but the thing I like most about masturbating with another male is I love to watch his cum spurt out and see how his dick pulses as he orgasms and ejaculates, like in Ejaculation Movie #9. I enjoy having a man's hard dick in my hand and feeling it's firmness. I love massaging, stroking, sucking and masturbating him. I also enjoy playing with a woman's cunny and enjoy licking, sucking, and pleasuring her so as far as sex is concerned I am very Bisexual.
Hi guys, I just got a link to this site today from a BMMG group site (bi/gay marreid male group - Boston). My feelings and thought about (bi0sexuality) goes along my beliefs in reincarnation and astrology, and I'd like to explore that with those interested. Also, I am finishing an astrological research about planetary patterns on charts of gay and bi men, to be presented in a conference in Baltimore in march 2007. I fanyone would like to help by answering a short survey, I'd appreciate. you can email me at bilatnmelboston@aol.com. It's totally anonymous adn confidential. looking forward to reading more comments and ideas and visiting this site. i wish all happy holidays and New Year. I understand Spanish as well. Thanks., Fred.
Heteromantic & homoplatonic, an interesting idea. I'm married and I acknowledged, to myself, being bisexual a few years ago. I've had intense sexual relationships with women and equally intense erotic encounters with other males. I tried to ignore the contradiction but gave up. As a teenager I enjoyed mutual masturbation with a couple of other guys. Later I found it inconvenient being attracted to hard bodied guys at the beach in bikinis or thongs. A few recognized my interest and the mutual masturbation and oral sex was very satisfying. I avoid it now in the interest of not getting caught up in all the possible complications. Now, it's a masturbation fantasy.
I am truely struggling with my sexual and emotional direction at the moment. For years now I have only had sex with other men and have really, really enjoyed it. I only look at gay porn and have gay fantasies while masturbating. However, after a number of relationships, I have found that guys do not fulfill me emotionally, only physically.
On the other hand, I have incredibly strong feelings for my best friend of 12 years who is female. Nothing would make me happier than to enter into a relationship with her as I know she wants to. While she is an incredibly beautiful woman, I don't have any sexual attraction to her (or any other women for that fact).
Guess this indicates that sexual attraction and emotion are two separate aspects of the individual and can be mutually exclusive.... unless there's such a thing as bi-polar-sexual!
I am a tall, very fit, athletic,straight, white male in my early 30's. several years ago ,I realized I loved recieving attention from older, mature black males. I was looked at once in a locker room by a 60 year old black man who was obviously admiring me. I was totally taken by suprise at just how much this experience gave me an incredible rush! He started a conversation with me and I ended up giving him my phone number. I ended up going to his house to hang out with him and couldn't believe my level of excitement just thinking about it. I ended up getting completely naked for him and just let him enjoy my entire body for a couple of hours. I ejaculated for him several times and had not experienced such intense orgasms before being with him.I did not reciprocate in any way but continued to go over to see him for several months. I do not have any interest in being with males of my own race, I do not really know why I have this preference but would love hearing about other similar situations.
I have a friend that is st8 (I think) but I'm finding myself having feeling for him, I know that that could mess up our friendship but I don't know how to tell him how I feel, I also have had several girlfriends and everything is good until we have sex, where things change and it seems like I have to be there for them and just give all of my time to them, and not having time for myself, maybe I have been meeting the wrong type of women, but when I'm with my male friends we can just kick back and relax and just let time pass. I guess this makes be a non active bi-sexual want-a-be for now. But if I had the chance to try having a male sexual experience with him I would knowing my luck if I ever shared my feelings with my friend I could really mess things up between me and him, and my other friends since we have common ones. So for now I will have to keep my feelings for my friend to my self, with I find hard to do because we have so much in common but the only problem is that we are the same sex.
As a male, I do separate sex and romance very easily. Romantically, I am interested in females only. However, to be truthful, I couldn't care less whether it is a woman or another man who gives me head. Also, I have no problem giving head and swallowing semen - mine or another's. But I have no interest in anal sex with a man. I have not had a penis in my anus since I was raped as a child. (Curiously, this rape didn't traumatize me. It did hurt, though.) I also have no problem with masturbating or being masturbated by a male or a female, however, I do prefer being with a female. The thing with myself and sex is, I absolutely love a vagina, being in a vagina, smelling a vagina (well, the vulva, at least) and licking or sucking a clitoris and putting my tongue or fingers in a vagina. I just love vaginas and the external female reproductive organs. A penis is always interesting - after all, I have one too. Handling and sucking one is just fine, as I said. And having mine handled and sucked by another male is just fine. But, I do love a vagina!
I've been a crossdresser from early childhood. It wasn't until I was in my teens that I discovered my attraction to other boys (and girls) my age. What I didn't know then was that this was known as bisexuality but I admit, I love my orientation. In my early 20's, I had a four year love affair with another crossdress that was truly fabulous and fullfilling. To this day, my desire for same sex relations remain as strong as ever.
My category would be vari(able)sexual....Percentages of interest
in same sex...romance 0 friends 75 genitals 50
I call myself self-sexual. I haven't had sex with anyone, for a long time due to occupational schedule and social reticence. The idea of bisexuality holds more excitement than vanilla sexual relationships.
What shall I do?
It wasn't until I was in my 30's that I fully realised I am bisexual.My wife knew before we started our relationship. Our daughter had a good loving upbringing;she came out as gay to us at 14,so is this thing genetic? At 66 yrs.marriage now over{she met another guy)I'm in no hurry about my sexual future;I've got the greatest of fantasies thanks to masturbation. Education/information these days is great!Pity it wasn't when I was a young man.....still no point in moaning......Keep the faith folks!! love you all !!!
I am writing a book about this. I believe that star signs are very critical in understanding lover's. (I have attempted to email Fred but it has come back undelivered mail). My name is Laura Myer. I work as a private hi class escort in Sydney Australia. (lauramyer.com).
I've just submitted a book that I've finished writing. I think most of us have no idea of the psychology of sex and the sociological aspects involved in it.
My aim is to reduce the rate of suicide in men too with my book. I believe it is possible to halve the rate by 1. everybody relaxing about sex and 2. reaching out the hand of friendship to men who are vulnerable to suicide (eg. divorce etc).
I am definitely big on reincarnation.
Astrology - big! I think it's crucial we understand star signs in order to help us work out our lovers. My lover is like a lion in his personality (even tho he is scorpio), and he won't communicate much. I've had to look up his star sign to understand him and it's worked magically!
I'd be fascinated to hear back from you (and Fred) as I think your arrows are straight on the mark even tho society would think it's not so common. Society needs to be better educated. I have gone against all the grains with seeking truth and knowledge and I still cop flack for it. They remain ignorant. Society knows nothing about even 'honouring' a person. It's not taught. Therefore society has alot to learn!
I think you'd find my book very intriguing and I can send you a small snippet. I'm awaiting publishing. It will be totally controversial. lauramyer33@hotmail.com
Warm wishes
Laura
Reading these stories has confused me further. I thought that I was bisexual now for a few years BUT now maybe I'm just hetero with a naturally gay streak !
Yes, I love playing with cocks and masturbating with guys. Even Oral sex to completion if they want to go down on me that far. But I've never had cum in my mouth ( yet ).And I have had anal sex with a guy too.
And I love women, love sucking them off too and rimming.
So what am I, bisexual or hetero with a gay streak ?
I have had many male/male sexual experiences, I enjoy it, I have a tendancy to start having feelings for a guy, I have had what I think is a crush on a few guys. Then there are times its just sex, I would much prefer to have romantic feelings for girls only. However Im very aroused by the male body and penis.
Is it possible that a male's sexuality is fluxtuating over time?
From heroism in the teenage years to hetrosexuality in the early twenties and to bisexuality in the late twenties and early thirties?
That is my experience. I still love to have sex with my wife, but do crave interaction with men like j/o's and sucking (receiving).
Since I'm worried about sexual deseaces, I hardly ever have encounters with men as I care for my wife and children too much.
It is a crazy combination of sexual feelings and experiences, but on the other hand not bland.
Where is it possible to find trustworthy men who are in the same crazy position?
Guys who are in a similar position, please give me some reaction on your feelings and experiences!
A few years ago a friend and I were on a motorcycle trip to a small town in Nevada. We made these trip 3-5 times a year. It had become a familiar place, we knew quite a few locals, including spending time socializing and having a drink or two at the local brothels. I've never been particularily tempted to use their services, but I've got to admit there was a redhead there once that did tempt me. Anyway by time I got home home I was hornier than a three petered billy goat. My wife was used to me coming home that way, she knew why. Anyway it was her time of the month, and I respect her wishes to abstain. Anyway, she relented to let me stradle her chest and side it between her jugs. As it went back and forth she'd lick and suck the head. She was really getting in to it. I felt my nuts getting ready to unload. I aimed it over her right breast, I shot two good bursts on it, swung it back over the left, two good bursts on it, then fed it into her mouth for even more cum. Some went in her mouth, some all over her face. I really unloaded. She seemed to really like it. I don't think I've ever cum so much. I sat there for a moment looking at all the cum all over her, it was impressive. I shoot pretty hard, so it flew everywhere. I rubbed my cum over one breast while she rubbed the other. Her breasts were glistening with my cum, far better than wasting on that redhead.
I have been married for 22 years. I am 41 years old. I have had male encounters since I was about 14 years old. Mostly oral and mutal masturbation, I have tried anal but not much. I struggle with my sexuality. It has been about 2 years since I have had sex with another male. I was molested when I was very young and again when I was 12 years old. I am not sure it that affects my sexuality and I will never be sure. I can never go back to change what happend. I have to accept it. My girlfriend got pregnant at 19 years old and I got married. I have had numerous affairs with males and females since being married. I am a sex addict. Growing up, I always had lots of girlfriends and lots of sex with girls, and a few with males, but as long as I can remember I had an attraction to males. Left to my on, girlfriend not getting pregnant, I am not sure what I would do. The attraction is there I love to fantasize when I see a hot young guy. I try to control this because I waste lots of time and productivity. I'm just not sure. If society were more tolerant of bisexual males as they are for females, maybe I would be more open. Because I believe I have the best of both worlds and can admire beauty of both genders. I see young hot couples and desire them both.... really. It is nice to know there are others that feel like I do. All my male friends are straight or at least act straight. Hope this helps, I know it helps me to talk about it.
I love to see the girls at school and fanatize about seeing them in the shower in the gym. But, when I am in the boys shower I look at the guys there and have trouble not getting a hardon. They look really good to me but I am afraid of having sex with boys or girls. I watch porn DVDs and jerk off. I think I am a virgin even though I jerk off. I guess a lot of the guys are virgins too but we can never talk about sex. I am confused but hopeful. I think bi is ok and think gay is ok too. Really, I am just pretty ignorant and hope I soon get the experience I need to give an honest opinion.
I have a penis supported by a pair of testicles. I have to shave my facial hair every day. I am obsessed by the glorious beauty of the female form...So I guess I fall into the category of Hetro sexual male.Right? Now just a moment! Hang on there! On any given day I go can into all sorts of emotional areas within. I can be tender and nurturing then morph into dominance and demanding then loving and submissive, become logical and decisive then sadly insecure and afraid, Ad Lib Ad Infinitium. A dance of Masculinity and femininity, that is our humanity. OK? So what about SEX!!!!! Well that is our animal side. The chaos and confusion comes about when we try to marry the two. Sex is the animalistic and primative instinctive urge to procreate. Us guys get a hard on because we have a package to deliver and we have to find a place to put it. Thats where you ladies come in. Once each month you girls provide an egg that needs a kick start to 'beget' but you have the added responsability of getting The best bang for your buck. It's your choice and by God! you should be choosy. So while your looking around for the best deal you can get, us guys are running around with this hard on and no place to put it. So we improvise, looking for a substitute Pussy. So wham bam, thank you ma'm! Becomes wham bam thank you man! Gay? Not necessarily so! The guy's got this package to deliver and if some guy or girl is kind enough to take his erection into their mouth and suck on it till he cums he is more than gratefuly content. He goes away and stokes up for his next shot. Why is the guy wham bam While she wants him to take it easy.? Shall we tell them ladies? IT'S THE MULTIPULE ORGASM!!!!!!!
You see what happens? I start thinking about you ladies and your multiple orgasm and I start to get excited, but I am of the age when I no longer have a package to deliver, actually I've run out of steam. I am going to bed. Play around a little, then get some sleep. We will pick up on this tomorrow. If I may? Good night all. Gay or straight or any other shape your in. DON'T WORRY! Enjoy.
Gigi
I love women, physically and romantically. Had a very long dry spell. I've never had physical sexual relations with a male.
The fantasy of anal penetration by a male or female, and the fantasy of being a woman and having my fantasy vagina, anus or mouth filled by a skillful and loving male's penis is powerfully exciting for me. I have had wonderful fantasies such as being in a hotel room at night, on a higher level floor, overlooking the Charles River, and being a somewhat zaftig young woman facing the window overlooking the river. A politely aggressive male lover comes up behind me and places his long, thick penis between my legs, reaching all the way to my vulva and rubbing me from behind, then bends me over and penetrates me vaginally from behind as he mauls my big breasts and large, stiff nipples. I'm wearing a black skirt and garters and hose, but no panties. Plus, a loose fitting soft white blouse which he unbuttons, or reaches underneath, to get to my big breasts and rock hard nipples.
In my non-fantasy life I use various anal toys, and it feels great. Also, I fantasize about licking up and drinking the cum I shoot while penetrating myself anally in reality, but after I ejaculate and come down from my cumshot, rarely follow through because the desire to consume cum dissipates rapidly afterward. I have to be really drunk and very horny to eat my own cum, after I ejaculate. Yet, I always fantasize about consuming my cum, and other men's cum.
I figure I like the fantasy but wouldn't be too comfortable with the reality of male-to-male sex, because I don't like the swishiness and exaggerated behavior of gay men. I've seen a lot of that in my job. It seems fake and over-the-top, to make a bad inverted positional pun.
The fact that I like the fantasy of being penetrated by a male or female is something I'm comfortable with, yet I've never sought it out in the real world.
Call me a fantasy bisexual.
There is a little pool by a palm tree not too far from a small resort in the desert. All kinds of people use this pool for all kinds of reasons. Men and women come there to soak in the warm water. Lots of guys meet guys there to jerk each other off in the open air and in the water. I have heard it said that if all the cum juice was gathered together that had been shot in that pool cum could be used instead of water!
I loved to strip and put my cloths in a backpack and hike to sand dunes near the pool. I would leave the backpack and hike to the top of the dune. If there was no one there that was OK because others would come. Could be men or women. Both gave me a hardon. I did not need people to get a hardon; just came naturally. On several wonderful occasions I just ran to the top of the dune and went down regardless of who was there.
I think I am bisexual because I did not care who saw me or who was there. I was welcomed by all and came with both genders.
When I was 13 years old, a friend and I experimented with a gay sexual relationship. We both are very straight but just like the way everything felt. We performed oral sex on each other often, we penetrated each other regularly and even ejaculated inside each other more than once. For years after I have a straight life with no desire to try it again. Lately I have found myself wanting to experiment again. I know that given the right circumstances, I could enjoy sex with women and enjoy a guys penis in my mouth, penetrating a guy again, and being penetrated. That is why I believe that early life experiences play a major role in your sexuality.
I have this best friend from college. From the first moment I saw him, I was sexually aroused. I am not sure what it is or was, but 20 years kater, I still find him utterly attractive. Now, I have found men attractive, but not in the sense that I'd do anything for them sexually. One night I told my friend about my thoughts. He was cool with it, but said he was staright. We were drinking and he was going to bed. I was going to sleep on the couch when he asked me if I wanted to sleep in his bed, because there was more room. We laid and taliked and then he shocked me. He said he had a kink in his back and could I see if I could rub it out. I said sure and he rolled onto his stomach. I removed his t-shirt and he was only in his briefs. As soon as I touched him, I was hard as a rock. I massaged his back and then worked up to his neck and down to his legs. I worked in between his legs and lightly brushed between his sack and his anus. He didn't move other than a little brind into the bed. I continued to massage his backside and removed his briefs. I rolled him over to do his front and he was hesitant. I said, just roll over. He did and he was hard. It stood straight up. I worked on his chest. I am sure he saw what was sticking out of my briefs. He closed his eyes and I removed my clothes and placed my asscrack on his cock while I continued to massage him. The feel of him there and even his flesh against mine made me so hot! Finally I got up the courage to reach for his cock. He thrust his hips in the air and moaned...that was it. I was finally fulfilling my fantasy. I grabbed it and stroked it. I put it in my mouth and it felt better than I imagined. I sat up and looked at him for some reassurance and that is when he looked at me, smiled and said, It's all good and readhed over and kissed me. He grabbed my throbbing cock and stroked it. We ended up making love. Real love. We loved each other immensely as best friends and that night we made it real. We ended in a 69 and both came at the same time. I wasn't prepared to take his load in my moouth nor did I expect him to take mine in his. With our nouths full of each others semen, he kisses me hard and we are exchanging our mouthfulls. I loved it! Afterwards we talked about it. He said that he had been curioous since a teen and that he had thought about me when he jacked off on occasion. He just didn't want to be gay. I told him I felt the same way. We both have girlfriends and I told mine. She loved it. We have had 3 ways and then he had to tell his girlfriend out of guilt. Well, seems that my gf had already told his and they had been fooling around too. Now we are a happy 4some that can be a 2some or 3 some or me just dreaming of my next encounter. Me and my bud have only been with each other. We think of ourselves as lovers and friends. I have the best now. My gf my best friend and his gf too. Now the but....but I could not see me doing this with any other guy. Weird? He is the only guy I want to cum in, on and with and who I want to cum on, in and with me. My advice...don't be afraid....be honest and see what may happen. You never know....he may be wanting the same thing, but may cover it up so you don't think he is gay. I am not gay and neither is my friend, but we sure love to fuck each other and no other!
bi-sexual males. that always sounded werid. i at an early age throught it was werid,and out of place. well i found out different. in my teens,i had 2 certain guys,who wanted me to watch them suck each other at the same time. i figured it was a way to get me some place and fuck me. i said no. i found a book about sex stright,lesbian,gay,bi-sexual,masterbation,restraint sex,bondage,public sex.oral,and stright in public,being watched. the more i read,the more interested i became. before the end of the book i was very horney,i made myself climax many times. i didn't know,but my brother was looking,peaking through a whole in the wall. half way through the book on stories,and sexual happenings. well i read the book nude. playing with myself,alot.and climaxed many times. i squezed,pulled my nipples,tits,stright out far,i put my fingers in my pussy. lots of times i put the book down and fingered my self,played with my tits,climaxing,and climaxing,not knowing i was being watched. the hole in the wall was right under a picture,and wasn't easy to see,it was very hard to see,if i wasn't showded i'ld never knew it. i was home alone,and for some reason i went in my brothers room. getting ready to leave,i noticed something. so i looked at it,i could see in my room perfect. i knew he had been watching me, their was evendence on the wal and floor,i actually shook seeing that. so i started snopping around. i found another hole. i couldn't believe it. into our parents bedroom. he had been watching them,also. i couldn't wait until he would be out for the night. well it finally happened. well i went in his room,and moved the rug too look down. they were getting ready for bed. i seen them undress,nude.and laying on the bed,what a view. my mom was playing with my dads cock,he then fingered her,and sucking her tits, i had an explosive climax,seeing the fucking,her legs wrapped around him,then he stopped,and they put her legs over her shoulders. i could hear her moaning loudly,then dad pulled almost all out then rammed in mom very fast and kept holding in her, she let out a soft squeeling noise,another climax for me, she most likely climaxed to,with dad shoot his sperm up in her. he stayed in like that,moving around up and down,in circles trying to push in more,then she really let go with a yell,keep shooting,it's so good,warm,fill me with sperm. after he rolled on his back,she sucked his cock. he put his hands on her head,then pushed down as he pushed up oh suck,suck,i'm shooting my sperm,sallow it,oh it's so great. i found out why my brother liked peaking at them. i got ahold of the 2 guys around my age,in teens.and said i would like to watch. we wen't to ones parents place,carrying school books. a reason not to be bothered. they undressed,then laid on the bed,head to feet,played with each other then started sucking each other,seeing that,i instantly,i figured why not so i undressed too,watching and getting horney,making myself climax. 1 stopped sucking,watch we are both ready to shoot or sperm,then suck harder,man they had their hands on each others ass, pulling each other in farther,and squirmed around pushing. when done they laid their. cocks held stright up.OH,O-H. we talked,and they said they liked girls too. would you like to,they didn't finish talking. i was sitting on 1 and bent over sucking the other. we had about an hour of sucking,sallowing,and fucking. all ready to get dressed a knock on the door. whats going on in their,let me in his mother said. my shirt was buttoned wrong,put my bra between the mattres. the guys still had buldges in their pants. we got our books open and papers around. when he let her in. she looked all over and at us. then had her son come out in the hall, what did you do? her shirt is buttoned wrong,no bra now,look at this as she rubbed him. all 3 of you. he finally said yes. did she agree too it? yes. they came back in,and said she knew what we did. ya what know, no i'm not going to tell anyone. about that time she felt the other boy oh you are still hard. he pushed her hand away,half way shaking. close to shooting his sperm. look at your shirt buttoned up wrong,sort of see through,you had a bra on when you came in. ok,she said to her son,come with me. about half an hour,weheard him squeeling loudly. we figured he got the belt. thenhe came back up. she wants to see you next,he told the other guy. he was worried. we listened, half way hearing,she told him to drop his pants,and bend over, in a while he yelled out. then my turn,on no,i knew i shouldn't have went to his house. get your bra. down stairs,scared bad. i had to take off my shirt to put on my bra. but first she grabbed my tits very hard and sucked my nipples. then my bra and shirt went on. come here,she told me lay on the sofa. pull your pants off, i couldn't believe it she went btween my legs putting her toung in me,licking,and sucking me,i climaxed,so did she. ya they both fucked you right,a well yes. here she had me tounge her.lick,and suck her,oh keep going,she yelled out, oh i'm so close,and about that time a cock went in me i instantly climaxed and then she did. she had the other one do her. before i left she told me they swing. later on,like 2 or 3 weeks, i knew my brother was home. in my room door not completely closed. i looked at the hole,he was peaking,light on in his room. easier too see him,his eye. i slowly took off my shirt,then bra,and rubbed my tits,squezed them,and just played with them lifting them up then letting lose so they would bounce.then off came my shorts,then undies. i just had to put my fingers up in me,then spread my pussy wide,for a good look. listening real close,i could hear little noises from him. then laying on the bed,i put on a show, i fingered myself spred wide till i climaxed,then i took both nipples and pulled then stright out and far,i squirmed my ass around. then took 1 hand and rubbed my pussy,still pulling 1 nipple far out and hard. i moaned out for him to hear,oh i wish i had a cock in me,and both my nipples pulled hard,really hard,oh,oh,fuck i'm climaxing. OH,OH,I NEED IT. i ooked up my nude brother standing by my bed. ready he asked? what? oh what the hell and just that quick i felt his cock slamming my pussy.i climaxed,then he rammed in hard i groaned climaxing and feeling his sperm shooting in my pussy. then he kept going,oh how hot and horney i was, i moaned and groaned, made loud noises,man he was ramming me hard,at that time i didn't care who it was,it was great fucking. and shooting his sperm 8 inches in my pussy,i screamed out climaxing it felt so great. then he just laid on me in me. and then. no it was my dad in the room. he caught us. he tapped my brother on the shoulder,you shouldn't be doing this. why are you? we wanted to,and was both horney. oh, he got off me,did my dad ever watch his cock come out of me. what now my brother asked? be careful,finish why not so i licked his cock then sucked him,dad watching, then he pushed in and put his pushing hands on my head shooting his sperm in my mouth and i sallowed it, he started moaning to loud,dad put his hand over his mouth. their you 2 done now. sort of,yes i said. he was told to go to his room. dad came over and set on the bed. i was laying their nude, and his pj's were really sticking out. what made you do this? lots of stuff. i've seen you and mom nude playing with each other,fucking,and you got sucked. i seen my brother jack-off,he's peaked to watching me make myself climax,nude and many times. then a i watched 2 guys suck each other,,W-O-W,, then i let them take me,i sucked 1 while 1 fucked me,they traded places,many times. and i was so horney tonight i wanted any cock in my pussy. moaning and talking,saying i wanted fucked,i needed a cock. then he was in my room and we did it. ok. it's understandable. and he told me alot about sex. sort of a sex hard talk. he looked at me all the time. he suddenly reached over ant felt my boobs,and said i had nice size tits,and great hard nipples,then sucked them. i had no ideal what to do or really say. then his hand slide down me to my clit,as he rubbed it between his fingers,that relaxed me,i was getting horney. and then 3 fingers went up in my pussy,i climaxed,moaning,what,it feels good real good. he kept his fingers in me,i did it i felt his cock,then got it out and managed to get to it. oh i sucked his cock,and sucked,and he pushed in my mouth far way far as he was shooting sperm i was climaxing and sallowing every drop of his sperm,he really groaned. done i looked at him,and said, you like that,oh yes,yes,you are perfect at that. i bent my legs up at knees,here this is for our fun. waiting a second,then one hard ram all his cock went fully in me shooting my pussy with nice warm sperm as i squeeled out fuck you are good. then again,i got my legs over his shoulders. told him to ram me as hard as he could and fast. i softly squeeled all through this fuck,then the throbbing and warm sperm,squirted out in my climaxing pussy,his hand over my mouth as i started screaming. O-H W-O-W. fuck i repeatedly climaxed. when he finishe up after a few more sperm releases,i was sweating alot,so was dad. then at different times,i walked about 3 miles to a park way off the main road. i came up on some people in sex.a lot guy or guys with a female.oh it was fun watching,hearing the girl squeeling with pleasure i think. expecially when their was 4 and 5 guys some alot more. the one with over 10 guys, when she could,please stop,don't,we can't,no,no. then a cock went in her mouth. when she was moved aroun she screamed,and yelled. she didn't want group fucked. later i talked to her, i asked her about it. she finally told me why and what. at home this one relation was grabbing he tits and pussy. then finally got her to go riding around with him. she said she knew he was going to fuck me,that wasn't bad. then all the other relation came out,he told them where he was takng me. their was 14 in all. i told her i seen them,made myself climax several times then left. that was in the morning,she said they didn't get home till 9 that night. i was sore,and it hurt to walk but i managed to stagger walking. she said it was almost constant sucking cocks and sallowing,and fucking. they didn't take it easy with me. hard rough fucking,pulling my tits,twisting them, shoving hard and far in my mouth,i gagged sallowing sperm and sucking cocks. they tried to force their whole cocks all the way in my mouth. 2 did,after they pulled out of my mouth i gasped for air. it was a family get together for a week plus.ever day,and night i was taken. the women all left for the days,almost every day. i was left with 14 guys. when ever they wanted or needed to release them selves i got their sperm, it included my dad and brother too.and at that park i ran into guys,nude,one sucking then the other sucked, and sometimes they sucked each other at the same time. i get so hot and horney,watching that. and i seen 3 guys laying on a blanket in a circle,all sucking a cock. after finished,i guess,i got a good look at them,i knew one guy. and man did he have a cock. very long and good size around that was a climax. i was behind some bushes,peaking through,with a great view. from about 10 foot away. then 2 guys got on their knees and took turns sucking the guy standing up. then said i'm going to start shooting my sperm,both guys opened their mouths,and i seen him shot sperm in both their mouths,back and forth,then they suck his cock after words. i went and seen the guy i knew wit the big cock. talking some,nothing happing. i reached up under myshirt acting like i was scratching my tits,going up under my shirt my shirt came up high i made sure some of my tit showed. then i finally unsnapped my shirt tits out under my bra. he stared. i took my shirt off and bra,then went over and rubbed my tits over his face. then asked him to fuck me as i pulled off my skirt,wasn't wearing undies. after i got his cock out and suck it,he agreed to fuck me. he just put about 3 inches in me,i wrapped my legs around his ass,and screached out ram it all in me all the way. he did fuck i screamed in pain and climaxing,he started squirting his sperm in my pussy,W-O-W. then he fucked me his cock was so hugh. then another guy came up,he instantly started sucking his cock. right over my face what a beautiful sight, and a beautiful fuck. later i was told he had over 12 inches. these 3 guys lived together. i sat on the sofa,watching the 3 suck each other, my pussy never stopped climaxing. i love watching guys suck each other. i love watching guys jack-off each other shooting their sperm i love seeing cocks shooting sperm.OH..
i am 32 and had girlfriends most my adult life. i do think of men often when i masterbate. i think of a guy sucking me off and me him. i a not attracted to men in a romantic way but i a very curious about having oral sex with men. i also get excited about locker rooms and wishing a guy would walk up to me and touch my cock. i get off on cam chats with men to where we wank in front of cam.
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