The Mainstream Bisexual
Heteroromantic and Homoplatonic

This article seeks to explain the true representation of sexual diversity within the human being. It goes on to include how society and politics can affect individual sexual preferences over decades of socio-political change.

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People continue to lump sexual, romantic, and even platonic feelings together under "sexual" orientation, when the reality is that each of the three is an independent variable. Most males, in particular, have no problem separating sex from romance. For example, when a straight male says, "I'm not gay. I just like male oral sex," what he means is that he is heteroromantic (straight in the romantic sense). In short, romantic orientation is what people usually mean by "sexual" orientation.

I believe that about 70% of the male population is biSEXUAL, heteroromantic, and homoplatonic (sharing homosocial bonds with guys, as straight males love to do). It is this innate biSEXuality in them that causes straight-identified males to fear anything gay. Furthermore, about 13.5% of the population is either exclusively or overwhelmingly homoromantic (gay in the romantic sense).

A realistic theoretical breakdown of the percentages may look like this:

Romantic Orientation	Sexual Orientation	Platonic Orientation
71%        Heteroromantic 15%        Biromantic 13.5%     Homoromantic .5%         Other	79.5%     Bisexual 10%        Heterosexual 10%        Homosexual .5%         Other	71%     Homoplatonic 15%     Biplatonic 13.5%  Heteroplatonic .5%      Other

The remainder may be biromantic AND bisexual.

I believe that most males bring their romantic feelings for females when they interact sexually with them and bring their platonic feelings for males when they have sex with males. The sex transforms these feelings (whether romantic or platonic) into stronger bonds between males and their sexual partners (whether males or females). This, in turn, has evolutionary benefits. Studies clearly are needed on this, but they won't be made until researchers start dissecting sexual, romantic, and platonic orientation as three independent variables.

Reading through the many advice columns on the Internet, I am disappointed that the so-called "experts" continue to talk about "heterosexuals," "bisexuals," and "homosexuals" when referring to the romantic feelings of these populations, and then dismiss the sexual feelings of their male readers as meaningless (or as "not meaning you're gay or bi") simply because it is sex, not romance, that the readers confess to being curious about.

A typical reader comment would go something like, "I'm a straight guy not interested in other guys. But I like sucking a man's penis. Am I gay?" The "expert" would then say something like, "Just because you enjoy gay sexual activity doesn't mean you're gay, or even bi. It is your emotional feelings that determine your sexual orientation. If you only like girls, then you're probably heterosexual."

The problem with this exchange (so typical on the Internet and even scholarly journals) is that the terms remain vague. Things such as "like girls" would presumably mean in a romantic sense. But this is not made clear, and the purely sexual feelings/activities are dismissed as "not the real thing." Unfortunately, this approach belittles sex and raises romance as the REAL determinant of "sexual" orientation. For males, however, sex ALONE is just as important as romance, and terms are simply lacking to allow them to make sense (to tear apart, if you will) these different elements of their lives, much less to name and even identify along different tiers of "orientation"-in this case sexual vs. romantic. vs. platonic orientation.

The label bisexual is rejected by straight-identified people-and males, in particular-because they think that it means rejecting the opposite sex romantically. But one can be straight in the romantic sense AND bisexual in the purely sexual sense (at least males can, who easily divorce sex from romance). In other words, people can identify in more than one way if presented with new analytical concepts and mutitiered orientation scales, such as the three-circle graph that reconceptualizes the Kinsey scale, found at www.threecirclegraph.com

America was way ahead in the 19th century, when males had the freedom (and were even encouraged) to form really intense friendships with other males. These friendships were called romantic-friendships because they involved males holding hands, kissing on the lips, cuddling together, and talking about intimate matters. (Females practiced these romantic-friendships as well, with other females.) Then, "homosexuality" was discovered in the late-19th century-just as industrial capitalism really took off. Suddenly, males were rebuked as "homosexuals" for being physically tender with other males and were encouraged to be competitive and to distrust one another (this being needed in the more fiercely capitalistic world that was emerging). The ridiculousness of this is that today, most males are thought to be biologically programmed to be macho, to distrust one another, and to be "straight." But looking at the social order of 19th century America (and Europe), one sees that romantic-friendships were quite natural. Sure, they lacked the sexual element, but everything else (from holding hands to sleeping together) was there.

I believe that America (and western Europe) can move back to this model, but this will require a radical shift in group consciousness. For starters, it will mean questioning the dominant paradigm of "sexual" orientation, of people being either "straight" or "gay," of sex and romance/friendship being the same thing (instead of independent variables that often come together), of males being biologically programmed to distrust one another and be "straight" (instead of socially conditioned for that), and so on.

The conservatives are right! Labels do matter, and how one identifies early in life (as far as "sexual" orientation) influences how one sees oneself in adulthood (as straight, gay, bi, etc.). This self-image, in turn, influences what one allows oneself to fantasize about, what one allows oneself to do (and not do), one's choice of friends, etc. Let's hope that researchers, activists, and others start providing people with more options (through research and activism) as far as "sexual" orientation and how people are allowed and even encouraged to identify.

Tony
www.threecirclegraph.com

Personally, I am a believer that platonic relationships can actually affect sexual and romantic preferences -- maybe even determine them. I would like to get some numbers on it to see how strong the possible correlation is. A more open-mind to the romantic relationships you described in 19th century men could possibly lead to stronger heterosexual identities in actual sex practices. If behaviors like that were more acceptable, I think it would remove much of the mystique and fear that surrounds many "straight" men's obsessive homosexual curiosities. With less mystique and fear, I think there would generally be less "straight" men worried about being compelled to engage in sexual actions with other men (or at least less over-reacting feelings about other men). -----

(2) As far as the "sexpert" advice columns are concerned, when someone is afraid they might be "gay", they are usually fearing the stereotypical symptoms of "gayness", which do exist in many gay men but not by any means in all gay men. The sexpert is usually trying to ease the mind of the questioner because it is not true that just because a guy thinks he might like to fellate another guy's penis that he actually would like doing it. Even if he did like doing it after trying it, does not necessarily mean that he will be suddenly behaving like a stereotypical gay male. Therefore, the more correct answer is: The questioner probably is not (and will not become) what his own conception of "gay" is. Nevertheless, "Sexperts" are often dealing with the "Average Joe" or the "Homer Simpson" that call or write in and ask, "I saw a guy's boner in the shower and it turned me on, does this mean I am gay." The Sex-expert is dealing with the average 8th grade educated "dude" who is scared he is going to somehow turn out like Elton John, Liberache, or other stereotypical gays. Therefore, the sex-expert cuts to the chase to ease the man's mind. They will say, "It doesn't mean you're gay because an erection turned you on." In reality, they are saying, "Just because a boner turned you on does not mean you will be lisping your voice, dressing like a flamboyant psycho, and getting humped in the butt by every slutty man in the world.-----

(3) Also, I think there is a general misconception of the word bisexual. A lot of people assume a bisexual would be sleeping with both sexes all the time. However, if we look at the broad definition of bisexuals as stated above, there are lots of married males who probably have bisexual feelings that are within the range of the majority.

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I identify as Bi, but Jim actually gay, by choice , I have had sex with plenty of females, but I prefer hard bodies hard cocks and all that works up to a climax with other dudes, I prefer encounters with guy's that say that they are str8, but are easily open to masturbation to a porn with chicks in them , guys who will openly masturbate with a buddy to a porn, when they are sitting there with there pant around there ankles, usually will go for me reaching over and grabbing there cock and jacking them off, and after they go for that, they usually have no resistance, if me going down on them and sucking there cocks to orgasm have blown probably 99% of my str8 buddies, and about 99% of them have sucked me back or at the same time 69 , some with a little reassurance that I'd never let it be known to ANYONE! Funny, After they trust that I wont ever divulge that they let me suck them off, it becomes a regular thing , they come over I offer them a drink , and we don't even turn on porn's they just give me the look ,or squeeze the cock and motion me to get down and suck um off! or they just say do you wont to give me some head again , and I do. TA Jim convened that under the right circumstances ALL horny men will let a dude suck them off as long as they feel that there activity Will Stay a secret.

Today, I admit to myself that I have a level of sexual attraction to my closest friend of almost 20 years, but that I still love my wife as well. In my fantasies, which I fulfill while masturbating, I imagine giving my friend oral sex and rubbing his penis. I imagine he does the same for me. We have a degree of intimacy, non sexual, that I don't have with anyone else which I believe explains my feelings toward him. We have talked openly about our sexuality. However, he is definitely straight and does not want to engage in the sort of activity that I would be interested in. I appreciate his honesty, and would never want him to feel uncomfortable, so I am unlikely to ever engage in that level of activity. He is the only guy I would ever want to be involved sexually with. Still, we talk about our sexual experiences with each other and that is satisfactory. Some may say that I'm not truly bisexual, but by my own definition in thinking about my friend this way, I believe I am.

I suppose I would be classified as heterosexual, as I have had sex with no other person than my wife since I married. When I was a teenager, I had a few homosexual experiences (oral, anal, and mutual masturbation). I enjoyed them, so I guess that makes me homosexual or gay. I love to masturbate and do it every day, sometimes ejaculating several times a day, and I spend a lot of time masturbating even when I don't ejaculate. So I suppose that makes me a solosexual. I have often fantasized about my wife having sex with another man, or engaging in sex with another couple in a bi-sexual orgy. So I guess that would make me a voyeur and bi-sexual. I think it is difficult to put a label on someone to say they are exclusively this or that, it might just be circumstances for some people -- they get into a certain category and are happy with it, but it could easily have been different. Also it may depend on how strong a person's sexual drive is. It seems some people have a really low sex drive and are satisfied with a small amount of sex, they could easily just fit into one category. Others who need a lot of sex might be more likely to experiment with different things.

The first time I was really ever unsure about my sexuality was four nights ago in my local bar. There was this couple there from out of town and they got chatting to me. I'd say the wife was about 45yrs old and the husband was about 50. As the night wore on and the alcohol flowed the three of us chatted away. The guy was very genuine and I started to felt a closeness to him. His wife was reasonably attractive and after a while her husband left to go to the toilet. She was very affectionate towards me and leaned over and said she had to ask me something. All of a sudden my cock went rock hard. I thought she was going to propose a threesome, but it wasn't that.

Later that night in bed I could not shake off my stiffie. All I could imagine was the three of us having sex. In my fantasy I was sharing her with him in a front and back position. Then I found myself fantasising about jacking him off, giving him oral and anal. Also him doing the same to me. I found this turned me on more than the fantasy of bedding his wife. This is the first time Later the next day I really felt undecided about my sexual identity.

I've had sexual fantasises before about cock, like after being in the gym showers and some guy gets a boner or watching porn etc, and I've masturbated about the fantasy. But that's all it was, fantasy. Now I feel I have a deep sexual attraction. Does this make me gay, bisexual or what? I don't have any tendancy towards romantic feelings towards this guy but if he and his wife invited me into their bed I would of definately would have been, and still am, a willing particpant in homosexual acts.

I also noticed something I do subconciously. I don't usually feel like going out to find a guy to have sex with but I do like being in the male changing rooms checking out guys and I usually get a boner in the shower. I like it when my local GP was giving me a testicle and penile exam for my yearly check-up.

Ionly ever be romantically involved and only ever have sex with women but I do have some close gay friends. I didn't discuss this encounter with them or even about being gay. None of them or their boyfriends have ever hit on me because they say I'm too straight. Now I have to re-evaluate who I am, but if as is said above I'm Heteroromantic I don't think I could have homosexual experiences and still be involved on an emotional level with the opposite sex.

I had read years ago about Kinsey's conclusion that no one is either totally hetrosexual or homosexual, but somewhere in-between. I didn't give it much thought but figured I leaned way to the hetrosexual side. I knew when a guy was handsome but was never physically atrracted to them whereas a good looking woman would definately turn my head.

My step-daughter is gay and we've had some good conversation about homosexuality and has caused me to think more deeply about the whole subject. Kinsey's idea seems more revelant now and I guess to one degree or another, we can be bisexual, if not relationship wise, sexual wise. If anything, it has caused a certain curiosity to what a same sex experience would be like under a controled condition. It seems weird to admit this but in a way the curiosity is an intellectual one as well as the physical aspect.

i am a little confused about the gender i will go with in the future i am a 14 year old male in the mid stages of puberty. i have a deep desire to engage sexualy with another teen male my age and yes i have a girlfriend and we do ''Stuff''. yet i am leaning more towards the gay side (homosexual)but i dont want to. i know that most boys at this age is curious about the same sex relation but it sorta scares me and i feel guilty about even thinking of it. its just when i see another man without a shirt or just a hott guy in general, i get hard and fantasize about having sex with him. is there any tips you might be able to give me? on how to not be gay, i would even be happy being bi, but for some reason i lean more to the homosexual side. Thanks

I am a happiley married man but I enjoy a close relationship with my brother inlaw. While we are both straight we have found that we are physicly attracted to each other.We now have an occasional sexual encounter and have found that it has added a new dimension to our friendship. I never thought that I would enjoy sucking a mans Penis or anal sex. Sex has certainly deepened our friend ship.

I am 27 and I guess would be concidered a bisexual. I have always had girlfriends and am currently in a longterm relationship with one of 4 years. I get together with a male friend of mine about 4 times a months on top of the times my girlfriend, myself and my friend have mfm 3somes, but with no male/male contact. While I do enjoy sucking cock and getting mine sucked and at times anal, top and bottom, I would never have a relationship with another male. Even though my girlfriend has made it clear that bisexual males do not turn her on, I'm on the verge of telling her about my friend and myself in hopes that maybe us two males can fool around during the 3somes. I have been having sex with males since I was 17 and don't plan to stop, but also plan on having relationships with only females

I consider myself hetero sexual, but under the right circumstance I love to suck a on a real cock, being able to start with it soft and feel it grow in my mouth is a big turn on. When he ultimately cums in my mouth it is a enjoyable experience. I have even cum whith out touching myself, but as I take in his orgasm and be milking every drop of him I have cum myself.

I have been married for 22 years. I am 41 years old. I have had male encounters since I was about 14 years old. Mostly oral and mutal masturbation, I have tried anal but not much. I struggle with my sexuality. It has been about 2 years since I have had sex with another male. I was molested when I was very young and again when I was 12 years old. I am not sure it that affects my sexuality and I will never be sure. I can never go back to change what happend. I have to accept it. My girlfriend got pregnant at 19 years old and I got married. I have had numerous affairs with males and females since being married. I am a sex addict. Growing up, I always had lots of girlfriends and lots of sex with girls, and a few with males, but as long as I can remember I had an attraction to males. Left to my on, girlfriend not getting pregnant, I am not sure what I would do. The attraction is there I love to fantasize when I see a hot young guy. I try to control this because I waste lots of time and productivity. I'm just not sure. If society were more tolerant of bisexual males as they are for females, maybe I would be more open. Because I believe I have the best of both worlds and can admire beauty of both genders. I see young hot couples and desire them both.... really. It is nice to know there are others that feel like I do. All my male friends are straight or at least act straight. Hope this helps, I know it helps me to talk about it.

I lived in Thailand for a number of years and had a girl friend in the country. I would spend time in that beautiful, quiet place jogging along the dikes of the rice paddies, drinking Beer Sing and having lots of sex with my Tee Lok named Nit. Now Nit was a beautiful woman beyond telling, loving and kind. I had always been hetero but.... Vudoo stuff is popular in rural Thailand. Nit felt it necessary for reasons I cannot imagine to take me to her personal witch. He lived in a small hut amidst the coconut trees and rice paddies. I biked there with Nit and she introduced me to him and quickly left. The room was dark and thick with insense. There was a platform with dozens of Buddhas of all descriptions: some gold, some black, some of wood and others of green glass. He asked me to stand before him. I did so not having any idea of what would happen next. He asked me to undress! What? I would not do this. But he seemed kindly and after all he was a witch (worlock). So I only had on a T-shirt and short pants the shoes were left at the door. I took off the T-shirt but left the pants on. He made a gesture to lower the pants. And I would not especially because I was quickly developing a hardon. He gently took hold of the pants and lowered them slowly. There I was stepping out of my shorts with a hardon in a sort of Buddhist temple. He, or so he explained, was a sex doctor who could help me. Help me with what? He looked carefully at my stiff cock, examing the shape from the side and from the top, and even dropping to his knees to see it from the bottom. What is this? I thought. Then he ever so lightly touched the bottom of the cock feeling the blue vains which were now bulging with stiffness. That caused a sharp tingle even though his touch was ever so light with just one finger. He moved his finger further and further up till he struck the head. Then he went around the edge to feel the exacture of this organ. He spent what seemed a great deal of time feeling around the lower edge where the two parts of the head come together just below the slit. The precum was really flowing and I was almost out of my mind with pleasure. But this was very much a man! Then he had a tiny probe which he inserted in the slit just so lightly and removed it tasting the juice. As if that was not enough he moved down to the balls squeezing them, looking at themm, pulling the skin tight, tugging a bit on the pubic hair. He then asked me to spread my legs. He then moved his hand where no one had ever felt behind the balls poking and stroking. Then he tookout a small jar of some flowery smelling orientment and asked me to turn around. Then with my legs spread he felt around my hole again ever so gently. He put some of that sweet smelling save on his middle finger and very slowly inserted it in my hole. He found the prostate and poked it a bit. The precum oozed from my dick and I was really excited and experiencing feelings I never knew I had both emotionally and physically. No one but a doctor had ever ran his finger up my hole and felt my prostate. He turned me around, took a finger and got as much precum as possible and tasted it giving a nod of great approval. Then he began to stroke my cock. I said he had gone too far already but he just smilled. His stroking was to see if my reactions were normal. I put my legs together and held tight as I did when I had sex with Nit. The doctor was watching and feeling very carefully. The precum flowed and the head of the cock got bright red. He said this was most healthy. He pulled the skin on the lower cock up to the head and then gently pulled down again. He rubbed the cock with two hands as one would to build a fire with a stick. He struck the head with the palm of his hand and tried to push the cock in to my body as hard has he could. At this I let out a moan and got beyond the point of no return. He knew this and pulled my cock down, stretched it out as far as possible and with big eyes watched the cum shoot on his arm in three long ropes. He took the cum rubbed it on my cock as balls and reached back to push some in my hold.

He pronounced me in excellent condition and wondered if I would like a cup of tea.

I love to see the girls at school and fanatize about seeing them in the shower in the gym. But, when I am in the boys shower I look at the guys there and have trouble not getting a hardon. They look really good to me but I am afraid of having sex with boys or girls. I watch porn DVDs and jerk off. I think I am a virgin even though I jerk off. I guess a lot of the guys are virgins too but we can never talk about sex. I am confused but hopeful. I think bi is ok and think gay is ok too. Really, I am just pretty ignorant and hope I soon get the experience I need to give an honest opinion.

I have a penis supported by a pair of testicles. I have to shave my facial hair every day. I am obsessed by the glorious beauty of the female form...So I guess I fall into the category of Hetro sexual male.Right? Now just a moment! Hang on there! On any given day I go can into all sorts of emotional areas within. I can be tender and nurturing then morph into dominance and demanding then loving and submissive, become logical and decisive then sadly insecure and afraid, Ad Lib Ad Infinitium. A dance of Masculinity and femininity, that is our humanity. OK? So what about SEX!!!!! Well that is our animal side. The chaos and confusion comes about when we try to marry the two. Sex is the animalistic and primative instinctive urge to procreate. Us guys get a hard on because we have a package to deliver and we have to find a place to put it. Thats where you ladies come in. Once each month you girls provide an egg that needs a kick start to 'beget' but you have the added responsability of getting The best bang for your buck. It's your choice and by God! you should be choosy. So while your looking around for the best deal you can get, us guys are running around with this hard on and no place to put it. So we improvise, looking for a substitute Pussy. So wham bam, thank you ma'm! Becomes wham bam thank you man! Gay? Not necessarily so! The guy's got this package to deliver and if some guy or girl is kind enough to take his erection into their mouth and suck on it till he cums he is more than gratefuly content. He goes away and stokes up for his next shot. Why is the guy wham bam While she wants him to take it easy.? Shall we tell them ladies? IT'S THE MULTIPULE ORGASM!!!!!!!

You see what happens? I start thinking about you ladies and your multiple orgasm and I start to get excited, but I am of the age when I no longer have a package to deliver, actually I've run out of steam. I am going to bed. Play around a little, then get some sleep. We will pick up on this tomorrow. If I may? Good night all. Gay or straight or any other shape your in. DON'T WORRY! Enjoy.

Gigi

When I was in High School, my friend Larry and I would frequently jack off together. We both liked to jack off the other and Larry loved to suck my cock and would suck it until I shot my load in his mouth. I would suck his cock too, but I never let him cum in my mouth, I always stopped sucking and jacked him off when I thought he was getting ready to cum. I wish I had now. If he was here now, I would suck him to orgasma and swallow every drop.

I love women, physically and romantically. Had a very long dry spell. I've never had physical sexual relations with a male.

The fantasy of anal penetration by a male or female, and the fantasy of being a woman and having my fantasy vagina, anus or mouth filled by a skillful and loving male's penis is powerfully exciting for me. I have had wonderful fantasies such as being in a hotel room at night, on a higher level floor, overlooking the Charles River, and being a somewhat zaftig young woman facing the window overlooking the river. A politely aggressive male lover comes up behind me and places his long, thick penis between my legs, reaching all the way to my vulva and rubbing me from behind, then bends me over and penetrates me vaginally from behind as he mauls my big breasts and large, stiff nipples. I'm wearing a black skirt and garters and hose, but no panties. Plus, a loose fitting soft white blouse which he unbuttons, or reaches underneath, to get to my big breasts and rock hard nipples.

In my non-fantasy life I use various anal toys, and it feels great. Also, I fantasize about licking up and drinking the cum I shoot while penetrating myself anally in reality, but after I ejaculate and come down from my cumshot, rarely follow through because the desire to consume cum dissipates rapidly afterward. I have to be really drunk and very horny to eat my own cum, after I ejaculate. Yet, I always fantasize about consuming my cum, and other men's cum.

I figure I like the fantasy but wouldn't be too comfortable with the reality of male-to-male sex, because I don't like the swishiness and exaggerated behavior of gay men. I've seen a lot of that in my job. It seems fake and over-the-top, to make a bad inverted positional pun.

The fact that I like the fantasy of being penetrated by a male or female is something I'm comfortable with, yet I've never sought it out in the real world.

Call me a fantasy bisexual.

There is a little pool by a palm tree not too far from a small resort in the desert. All kinds of people use this pool for all kinds of reasons. Men and women come there to soak in the warm water. Lots of guys meet guys there to jerk each other off in the open air and in the water. I have heard it said that if all the cum juice was gathered together that had been shot in that pool cum could be used instead of water!

I loved to strip and put my cloths in a backpack and hike to sand dunes near the pool. I would leave the backpack and hike to the top of the dune. If there was no one there that was OK because others would come. Could be men or women. Both gave me a hardon. I did not need people to get a hardon; just came naturally. On several wonderful occasions I just ran to the top of the dune and went down regardless of who was there.

I think I am bisexual because I did not care who saw me or who was there. I was welcomed by all and came with both genders.

Well where to begin? I like slightly boyish girls and love having sex with then mainly from behind as I love the idea that they are boys? I love anal sex and this only excites me more and turns me on. I like the fact that when laying in bed spooning I will nuzzle up to a girls behind often without them knowing I am fantasizing aboutthem being a boy. one gorl has mentioned it to me saying you seem to like doggy style anal sex and my bum I feel like you are gay and afraid to admit it or too chicken to go out and find out. I love the guys I work with and have mentioned this alot so that comment comes pretty close. I get urend on by guys but cant do the actual act. a couple of times I have but these are exceotions. I do like the pecs on a guy and the hair I have kissed guys and very fervently handled there chests and thighs and got so turned on. I go to beats alot and have alot of head jobs cant do it myself. I got rimmed by a guy and it was fantastic, i dont usually like the idea of having a cock up me but after that tongue lashing I would let anything in I was so turned on. I have fucked afe wguys and its ok but i love womens butts and giving it to them from behind. I feel bisexual innature but a scardy cat when it come sto action. I like the idea. I often take a rest stop on long drives and there are allways beats around and i will wear skimpy shorts and lean over my seat so my butt faces out with the door open and i try to entice a guy I like the feeling of him rubbing his cock in my crack and getting off but not in. I fantasize about getting fucke dup the arse but i cant do it. I have enjoyed alot of times i have had sex in public and others are watching I watched a guy get a head job when a girl was kneeling and sucking him off i liked that mayby it was just empathy. I feel like I could be bisexual if I met the right guy. I met one at a festival he was wondering around in bathers speedos and had a tan and was so sexy in cowboy hat and he was up for a conversation about sex and he wasnt gay but he was a model and very sexy and up himself loved hinself more solo sexual prob. I was so turned on by him I got his number but its gone cold. I was close. I like watching young dudes go surfing and looking at their butts in wet suits, or guys with no tops on hunky and just cruising the beaches. I wanna get close i like kissing guys thats a real turn on. beats are too fast and impersonal and for fast lane sex wheather your gay or not. I like to think I could have a male partner but mayby i will be less sexual or just consrvative. I have definete feelings towards men and feel like the girls in my lofe are getting boring. I like firtive sex and naughty guilty sex like having it off with a school girl or a boy. its the forbidden and the enticing. I like girls rowing on the river in their blue bike cotton pants and there beautiful buttocks. I also like the boys doing sports and all muscles and hair and sweat. I said to the guy I call cowboy I met when he asked me if I was gay i said I dunno he liked that.

I like men and women. In my circumstance, I am an older male with the onset of erectile dysfunction. I have compensated by becoming proficient in the practice of oral sex. I am also very anal by orientation. I started with smaller toys to stimulate erection via prostate stimulation. As time advanced I grew to enjoy larger toys and the use of fucking machines. These practices arose out of a series of early childhood rapes. My first ejaculation was with a man while he raped me anally. I have since had a bi-sexual inclination. I am a father of four children, divorced, and recently engaged. My current female partner is excited by strap-on sex. We are able to stimulate one another in all the ways I have sought men and women to accommodate in the past. I still fantasize about men. My mate has suggested that if we can find and participate in an anonymous sexual encounter with another man (especialy one with a huge cock) she would be willing to participate in a three-way experience. I am thoroughly stimulated by the prospect. If I had to speculate about the bi-sexual orientation, in my case, its origins stems from early childhood abuse issues. The abberrant thought patterns are directly associated with the desire for increased stimulation and the search for an erotic experence that mirrors that childhod abuse experience.

Ok i just wanted to get this off my chest if your Heteroromantic it means you like the opposite sex but you don't want to have sex with them, so with that being in the Asexual group it should mean you don't want to have sex! So you can't be Heteroromantic and want to have sex with the same sex because you should not want to have sex in the first place. If you like guys and want to have sex with girls that makes you bi not Heteroromantic. because i personally dream about marrying a guy and being with him forever i just don't want him a shag me and i most certainly don't want to shag a girl because im am not sexually attracted to anything. So if you are going to label your self do it the right way.

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