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Sexuality - What is Normal?

This editorial explains the difficulties when defining "normal" and explores the reality of culture and society as the application of the word "normal" is used many different ways. Main Index | Our Mission | Suggestions | Report Violations <<<   Previous Topic   |    Next Topic   >>> Sex Theory Topic Page

American society and most other societies have determined that certain sexual practices are not acceptable, and they have outlawed them. For example, prostitution, public nudity, rape, sexual abuse of minors, etc.,  have had related legislation enforced to protect innocent individuals from sexual trauma. Lawmakers have determined that such practices are not normal and not good for a society at large. And those who violate these laws can be punished. But on what basis and what foundation does society make such a judgment? When we feel we can see enough to determine what is normal or not, we are moving onto a different plane of thinking. We are essentially asking questions that relate to religion and ethics. As far as many questions raised on this site are concerned, religion and ethics have nothing to say; but on some them have clearly defined views. For example, there are no clear guidelines to determine if anal intercourse is normal or not. Here it is a matter of what the individuals directly involved find acceptable. Some religious groups, on the other hand, have judged that masturbation and homosexual practices are sinful (and abnormal).

When we ask questions about what is normal or abnormal in sexual practice, we are moving into consideration of the ethical standards that guide our lives. Some find these standards in religious faith, others in humanism. However, most people tend to want to meet the unwritten requirements or standards in what is called 'popular culture beliefs'. These beliefs are the values, morals, ethics, and benchmarks passed on to us by the culture in which we live. There are many different cultures in the world and within the United States itself. Therefore, to answer a question about what is 'normal' is often very difficult. What is 'normal' to me, my neighborhood, my religion, my state, my province, or my nation may not be considered 'normal' to you in your society.

On this website, it is possible to provide mathematical means and averages based on studies, polls, and surveys. However, this information might not be what a specific individual within his own family, culture, and society can use or apply to himself.

Outside Related Links: Is It Normal? - A quest to discover just what is and is not normal through the power of the Internet. Participants can vote and submit personal scenarios.

SEXUALITY: Bisexual
GENDER:
TITLE: Feels Good Mic

If whatever you are doing sexually to or with each other and it feels good to you AND your are doing the activity with a consenting adult...no problem. That's normal.

SEXUALITY:
GENDER:
TITLE: Anonymous

Normal is any encounter you may meet with willing and eager arms.

SEXUALITY:
GENDER:
TITLE: Anonymous

I belive normal is in the context of the persons belief structure. If it makes that particular person uncomfortable to perform an act then you could call it not normal for that individual. However that very same act performed by someone else and that person not feel uncomfortable, well then that would be normal to them. I also believe in the context of normal or abnormal that as long as someone is not victimized or harmed unwillingly then normal lies in the eyes or person performing the acts.

Normal seems to be what is accepted by society. To me, the meaning of normal is a sexual context would be whatever you enjoy without hurting anyone. If in a relationship, whatever you and your partner enjoy and agree on. In short, just about anything as long as it doesn't hurt anyone.

I am a open minded person I fill that masterbation is a normal thing and that all male do it and if thy say thy dont there telling themself and other a lie/ I do a lot of studys of male sexuality and I think that if a parent walk in on there son while he is masterbating thy should excuse themself and let the boy do what he need to do. I grew up in the 50 where your parent did not talk about sex and if I got cought jacking off all hell broke loose/ that is wrong.

I think normal is different for every person. If you are enjoying your self and your partner is enjoying themselves, no problem. But if it goes past the point of comfort its not nessecarilly abnormal. Just a bit different from what someone would consider ok I think

I love woman but there is one guy who showed me his cock and I've been caught in a strange feeling of wanting him. He wants to have a foursome with his wife and mine. I want him but I believe that I am not at all gay but I'm willing to try the foursome if it means I can be with him too. very strange.

I have changed a lot. I once believed that only sex between a man and wife that resulted in the deposit of semen in the vagina is normal and acceptable. Today I am rather promiscuous gay man. I consider this normal for me and for my partners when we consent to and enjoy what we do. Quite a change.

I do not consider this radical change a cop out but rather a growth as I came to know and understand my gay brothers and myself.

I praise God for the growth and the guidance

I think I'm a normal male, and I think its normal to masturbate as often as you like to. I think its normal to have sex with a female anyway that you both enjoy, including oral. I think its normal for a guy to eat his own semen. I also think its normal for a guy to have a fantasy about having oral sex with another guy, or playing with him. I have seen some guy's penis that I have wondered what it would be like to hold it, or put it in my mouth. I think all of these things are normal feelings.

I'm a Heterosexual male but I had sex with my male cousin when I was thirteen years old and always wanted to do it again with a male, never had the nerve to approach another male?? I think about it all the time and I've been Married for thirty years, have kids, what if I got caught???? afraid to take a chance. Pete

I was taught to pretty accept missionary position sex as it. Prior to losing my virginity masturbation led me into some personal experimentation. Mentally I felt I was acting very deviant and what I was doing was weird and unacceptable. But it felt so good, and with time my solo sex acts got even wilder creating greater orgasms. How could anything so wonderful be so wrong. Along comes a serious woman into my life. Well, I finally lose my cherry to her, and it felt great, but my masterbation urges didn't ease at all. She'd been around a bit, but was pretty much limited to missionary sex. I wanted to broaden our activities, but was reluctant to scare her off. After about three years of pretty standard sex, one night she got on her knees and was expecting my cock into her pussy from behind. We'd done this a time or two, so-so. I loved her ass, always wanted to fuck it. I decided I'd take one hell of a risk. I lined up and my cock was wet with her juices, I could tell my head was at her rim. It's now or never. I began to apply insertion pressure. She began to say that's the wrong, but right about then it entered her. To my surprise, I expected her to pull off me and end the whole thing. Instead she went silent, and I could sense she was loving it, yet unsure whether it was ok. I blew a massive load right up her ass. She collapsed for a few minutes, I could tell she liked it. Then she darted into our bathroom, she took a seat, and I heard her ass expel my cum. It was a disgusting, yet beautiful sound. I thought she may stay in there out of shame, but she came out, I got her to lay by me, we cuddled, I reassured her I loved what we had just done, every part of it. Well, there after I'd say at least 80% of our sex ended up with me filling her rectum full of cum, then I'd listen to her blow out my juice. I was almost disappointed when she'd suck me off instead. Not that it wasn't good, I just loved her ass and how it felt so much. When she'd get on her knees, turn her ass to me, my cock would all but blow. In time I managed to control my orgasms enuff to spend more time in her. To this day, even if I well know we're not going to have sex, a nice flash of her ass erects me instantly. I'm no kid anymore, we've been married 30 years, I sure as heck don't have E.D.! She gripes about having a fat ass, I've seen it at various weights over our years, but no matter it drives me wild! She'll catch me staring, sometimes she tries to act like I'm nuts, but deep down I know darn well she loves it. Other women don't even interest me anymore. Last nite I was trying to talk her into wearing her black bra with my mesh tank top, and make a set of Daisy Dukes for me. She said I don't wear shorts. About 5am. I wake from a dream with an aching bone. I dreamed she was sitting on the couch in a pair of conservative shorts. I told her about it, she said thats the only way I'd see it. But I'm sure she saw my hard cock. I get harder, faster for her now than when she was 20. Last nite she sat by me to discuss some business paperwork, I started rubbing her ass, she rolled her eyes and got up and left, 15 seconds and I was nearly fully erect. It almost bothers me. I'm only around her, awake about 4-5 hrs. a day. I'll bet she causes at least a dozen good erections a day. And often I dream of her, then end up laying beside her sleeping, stroking my member like a 14 year old. At least I guess she doesn't have to worry about me cheating on her.

I guess I grew up where sex was dirty, personal. I guess I thought all there was, was intercourse, highly likely to result in pregnancy. When I experienced masturbation, it clearly proved sex could also be recreational. I learned early that pleasure for me was easy. And a woman is far more complex. I didn't want to become the guy that crawls on, blows his load and leaves his partner wondering, is that all there is? I have strived to learn and take the time to fulfill my wifes needs. I don't claim to be a master, but I think I've kept my girl pretty satisfied. Much credit goes to her for letting me try things that she would learn to love. Many of the things we enjoy, long ago would have been taboo to both of us. I doubt our friends know how sexually fulfilled we are. That's ok, the only one I want to impress and satisfy is my lady. She's a lady to most, and my personal whore in bed. I'm a happy boy. Normal I guess is a state of mind.

I feel that normal is a man and a woman having sex, yet that is normal for me. A gay man or lesbian woman might find it normal for homosexual sex. It's all up to your preference. Not one person is the same so normal is different for everyone. I don't feel that gay or lesbian sex is normal, but that is my normal maybe not your normal.

I am a hetrosexual man. Normal is what you regard as acceptable, that is therefore different for everyone, neither my wife nor I feel anal sex to be normal, but accept that some people do. Personally though I have no desires towards men, I do like to look at other cocks, flacid & hard, and am an ardent voyeur in the locker room or showers.

What is normal, I dont know - Take penis size. I have in my life seen around 20 penis's both flacid and erect, each man considered his to be normal, but each one was different, one as long as 8 inches, one as short as 4.5 inches, some circumcised, some not, fat ones and really thin ones, large testicles and very small, all shades and thicknesses of pubic hair. All of the men liked sex but some preferred missionary, some doggy, some with me on top. WHATS NORMAL - I dont know

Normal can only be described as the natural use of an organ. This in my opinion makes Anal sex wrong whether by gay's or hetro's wrong and disgusting.

Why is it that in this age of medical advance no research is done to correct chemical imbalances that cause mental problems that cause genders to be confused. Any other problem would be addressed but not this one.

I don't mean to offend and the PC crowd will differ but if diagnosed early enough and treated I am sure a lot of heartache could be prevented.

I am sure, No one would complain about being cured of any other abnomality, so if cured early enough, before the mental anguish kicks in with homosexuality, it would be a blessing in disguise.

The problem is with PC and the dread of researching this avenue. Just be honest how many of us are appalled by what has been achieved by PC, it angers most of us on a daily basis, It is just used to stop freedom of speach and here in the UK is stopping traditional celebrations in case they offend others, make people including polititions fearful of speaking up on imigration (regardless of race/creed) resulting in overcrowding/congestion/house price inflation etc. that this country can not afford. They pretend it helps the econmy but that would only be true if we assessed potential imigrants for the skills they hold, instead we allow all and sundry.

When is this madness coming to an end.

Jaba

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